Happy birthday to me Happy birthday to me

Just having a not-so-mild rant because it's my birthday today and yet again my son has not got me a card, or a pressie and thinks I'm being fussy..... :devil:

He's going on a trip to London tomorrow and has to be in school for 8am. Guess who's told him to walk the 2.6 miles as i'll be in bed :grin:

Everyone at work forgot except for my boss (who's in a different building) and also my best friend!

The only redeeming thing is my teenage students think i'm at least 10 years younger than I really am :blush:

Oh that's sad, a very happy birthday Lottie although you can't see it I'm raising my glass of wine as a toast to you! :glass:

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Many Happy Returns Lottie

Thought you deserve some birthday flowers

Happy Birthday Lottie!!!!

Oh poor Lottie!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

and good for you telling the little wretch he can walk to school in the morning! You gonna stick to it?!

Happy birthday Lotte.

I know how you feel as my eldest son who is at uni didn't bother with mothers day I didn't even get a text wishing me happy mothers day from the mobile phone I pay the bill on. So it would have cost HIM nothing. But guess who had to drive the 80 miles to collect him home and take him back for easter holidays. And do all the washing he brought home etc. buy him food when we took him back so he could eat for the next few months.

I did let him know in no uncertain terms that his younger brother (who had remembered and given me card and big box of thorntons chocs) had been given a card for Easter which contained some money. But as he couldn't be bothered with that sort of thing I couldn't be bothered with him either. Hope he got the message and remembers next time.

Go Rosey! Sometimes our kids are thoughtless and try our patience to the extreme, but, bottom line (in MY opinion!) there is no excuse for forgetting your mum's birthday, or Mother's Day, and if it happened to me I would be devastated. I know some folks are probably more laid back about it, but I'm not!

I think boys are worse than girls generally. I have been so upset in recent years when i did not get a Mothers Day Card and stomped around the place, banging their dinner hard on the table. This year I did get a card from youngest and an email and phone call from oldest who has gone to Australia for a year. I heard OH on the phone to oldest son in OZ reminding him of my 50th birthday in June (basically warning him not to forget). Ha

Poor Lottie, I know how you feel, its not nice.

Awwww Rosey!! (((((((Rosey)))))))
Aren't they so and sos? I think I'd have cancelled the ruddy phone contract!

Thank you for all the birthday wishes everyone, I knew I could count on you lot to make me feel better! <img src="http://r12.imgfast.net/users/1211/18/99/91/smiles/574242.gif">

Carol - I was a wimp....I didn't make him walk as it was pouring with rain, and I mean pouring. But I've told him a taxi would have cost £10 and so he owes me 1 hour and 50 mins work at £6 an hour minimum wage :happy:

Little sod had taken his waterproof off before he was anywhere near the school entrance, so he'd have been soaked. He's on antibiotics, so am I (for chest infections and ear infections) and if my mum gets any of this it would kill her, literally. He just doesn't seem to care. It can't all be about being cool because the other kids weren't all taking their waterproofs off. :taphead:

I thought he was overdressing himself in a black suit and a bright red bow tie, but hey ho I didn't say a word. :grin:
He's off to Covent Garden to see La Boheme.

If he expects a lift home that will be another Taxi Tenner :call:

Happy belated birthday Lottie. You stick to your guns girl, make sure the little tike works off what he owes you. I'm raising a G & T to you here

I thought to myself since I was last on that perhaps sons are different to daughters..I only have the latter - one natural, one step - and I see from what you say, Lottie & Itchy, that perhaps they are - not that it makes the perceived "neglect" any easier to bear I daresay, I think I too would be stomping about and banging plates on tables Itchy! Lottie I don't hold it against you for taking the lad to school..I think most of us would've done the same!! At the end of the day they're our own flesh & blood and that's about all there is to say! However, make sure you get your own back in some other way!

Happy Belated Birthday. My big brother now he does live in Canada, but his birthday is one day before mine. If I get a card I am in shock. I do get phone calls telling me oh birthday card and something on the way, which never arrives. A later phone call will mention in passing, "Oh I never sent it." He will then go on and tell me about his fab birthday and buying new TVs etc.

Thing is Carol, he can be a lovely lad and the rest of the time he does do things, like clean up the kitchen when he's trashed it etc.....
But it's those special days, like mother's/birthday/christmas when he lets me down.....and I always make his special.

He's juist worked hard at his music and passed another grade exam and really he needs a digital piano which will cost a fair bit.....
I really do not feel like making an effort now....but if I don't, it could affect his chances at passing any further grades in piano.

I bought him a new trumpet a few months ago - he paid half and I paid half and the bargain was I'd get my car cleaned inside and out.

Guess what??? I'm still waiting....

Perhaps there's your answer then Lottie ..."forget" his birthday...?! I know you won't find it within yourself to withhold the digital piano when it comes down to it, I don't think any mother could, but you can certainly make your displeasure known in various other ways!

My dad's told me to do as much too Carol. I nearly did it last year, but gave him the benefit of the doubt! I'm a big softie really.

I think i'll get my own back when I'm older. If he takes me out, I'll feign dementia, I'll throw stones at cars, I'll go out with no coat on and get sopping wet. I'll kiss him in supermarkets and swear loudly. I'll fart in public and pick my nose.....

Oh and I'll have MAJOR tantrums when I don't get my own way!

donna255 said:

Happy Belated Birthday. My big brother now he does live in Canada, but his birthday is one day before mine. If I get a card I am in shock. I do get phone calls telling me oh birthday card and something on the way, which never arrives. A later phone call will mention in passing, "Oh I never sent it." He will then go on and tell me about his fab birthday and buying new TVs etc.

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Your brother sounds remarkably like mine!

I bought his wife a lovely necklace for her 40th a couple of years back. They are loaded, I'm not.
Last year it was my 50th. He told me to come round for drinkies & BBQ as he'd forgotten to post my card.
I went round, he was the only one in, he sat fiddling with his new iphone all the time, didn't have a BBQ and after an hour I got fed up and went home at which point he got a £2 box of chocs out of the "anytime present" cupboard!!!!!

MEN!!!!

Kids who would have them they start off just like Gemcherub's amazing Morgan and before you know it they are forgetting our birthdays taking us for granted and making life difficult for all.
My DS now 25 lived away from home from when he was 18 until 7 months ago when he turned up on the doorstep with all of his worldly goods looking for somewhere to stay. Now I didn't mind but some notice would have been nice!!
He then threw himself around like a giant 12 year old have temper tantrums if he didn't get his own way.
We have had several "talks" and he is now just starting to act his age, but still expects to be taken to and from work and have his washing done.
I know we live in the middle of no where and there is only one bus a day and a taxi would cost the earth but to say thank you would cost him nothing.
SORRY I have hijacked your thread Lottie but it just got me thinking.
I hope you had a FABULOUS day and the rest of the family treated you like the Queen waiting on you hand and foot.
I hope you are feeling better as ear infections are not nice and very painful.
Love Karen

Hi Karen

Hijack away, I don't mind lol :grin:

I've got a day off work today and with the son being away, I can do what I like and he can't moan at me!
THere's only the 2 of us at home (not including the cat)

I've had some lovely messages on facebook (OK so it does come in useful sometimes lol)
Hopefully I'll see my parents at the weekend, but as my mum has parkinsons and breathing problems, I don't want to risk infecting her....but I think my chest problem is probably the same as hers so it might be OK!

And yes, your son is old enough to know better and should say thank you.
Sounds like you need to go on strike:clapping:

that's it then..it's men! (as if we didn't know!)